Comments on: We spend so much time smoothing things out… http://www.fourgroups.com/blog/archives/16/we-spend-so-much-time-smoothing-things-out/ Linking Behaviour to the Bottom Line Fri, 23 Jul 2010 18:52:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Bruce Lewin http://www.fourgroups.com/blog/archives/16/we-spend-so-much-time-smoothing-things-out/comment-page-1/#comment-91142 Bruce Lewin Wed, 15 Apr 2009 07:35:01 +0000 http://www.fourgroups.com/blog/?p=774#comment-91142 Hi Simon, good call on the lanuage and the Honda reference ;-) I'm not completely convinced that language per se is the trick, although it clearly helps. There's a problem with its subjectivity (i.e. what really is ok, or what really is good, bad, excellent, etc?) There is also the idea that language is a direct extension of physiology which makes for some interesting implications! Hi Simon, good call on the lanuage and the Honda reference ;-)

I’m not completely convinced that language per se is the trick, although it clearly helps.

There’s a problem with its subjectivity (i.e. what really is ok, or what really is good, bad, excellent, etc?)

There is also the idea that language is a direct extension of physiology which makes for some interesting implications!

]]> By: Simon Stapleton http://www.fourgroups.com/blog/archives/16/we-spend-so-much-time-smoothing-things-out/comment-page-1/#comment-91140 Simon Stapleton Tue, 14 Apr 2009 12:26:30 +0000 http://www.fourgroups.com/blog/?p=774#comment-91140 Hi Bruce - I like where you're going with this. Being OK for me is accepting the status quo and being comfortable with here-and-now. OAPs like okay. Worriers like okay. Dead people are okay. Okay doesn't change anything. Why do we put so much effort into being okay? If we spent more time thinking about 'What If?' we might embrace change and the future better (I think it was a Honda commercial that first posed that question!) I hope you don't mind me including this link to a recent post where I talk about negotiation for freelancers: if you get yourself into a un-comfort zone and not be okay, you have the upper hand. <a href="http://www.simonstapleton.com/wordpress/2009/04/06/freelancing-negotiation-psychological-tricks/" rel="nofollow">Freelancing Negotiation: Psychological Tricks</a> Hi Bruce – I like where you’re going with this. Being OK for me is accepting the status quo and being comfortable with here-and-now. OAPs like okay. Worriers like okay. Dead people are okay.

Okay doesn’t change anything. Why do we put so much effort into being okay?

If we spent more time thinking about ‘What If?’ we might embrace change and the future better (I think it was a Honda commercial that first posed that question!)

I hope you don’t mind me including this link to a recent post where I talk about negotiation for freelancers: if you get yourself into a un-comfort zone and not be okay, you have the upper hand.

Freelancing Negotiation: Psychological Tricks

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